Ms. Colette Murphy

COLETTE Murphy, the first lay principal of St. Mary’s High School, Downpatrick, is remembered by her family, friends, colleagues and past pupils for her sincere kindness.

A modest and unassuming person, she still managed to touch all who crossed her path with her generosity and compassion. As a teacher, Colette had a vision of education for girls; she saw each pupil as an individual and devoted her considerable talents to develop the full potential of those in her care.

Colette died on January 16, 2014, ten weeks after the death of her mother, Rose Murphy. For many years Colette, together with her sister and her brothers, their wives and their children, gave devoted attendance to Rose, who died just short of her 100th birthday.

Without any respite the family, especially Maura Mason and her family, then continued to nurse Colette until her sad demise. It is a double tragedy for the family to lose a mother and grandmother and a sister and aunt within such a short space of time, but surely it is a consolation to know how willingly and lovingly they were able care for both mother and daughter.

Every person who knew Colette has their own story to tell about their relationship with her. This became particularly obvious during the later months of her illness as friends and families exchanged memories; the focus of their memories inevitably concerned Colette’s thoughts for others.

We recalled how she remembered to acknowledge times of celebration — birthdays, graduations, weddings and so on. When there was stress or illness she was always there with a kind word, a phone call or a card, giving support and often well-considered advice.

Even after retirement she maintained her links with former staff and pupils, encouraging and cajoling those who were studying and cheerfully providing advice and references for those looking for work.

Many of Colette’s good deeds will never be acknowledged because she was a superb confidante and those who entrusted her with their troubles or difficulties were always sure of her good council and discretion.

Colette’s friends will always remember her for her loving kindness, much of it quietly undertaken and rarely acknowledged. She was one in a million and we are fortunate to have had her companionship and friendship over the years.

(Contributed).